Tell us about you two

01

The two of you

We email you both together each month. Either one of you can reply to confirm a plan.

You

Your first name

Your email

Your spouse

Your spouse's first name

Their email

02

Where you are

Just a ZIP code. We use it to measure drive times, and we never need your street address.

ZIP code

How far will you drive for an evening date?

15 minutes25 minutes40 minutesFurther is fine

And for a daytime date?

Usually shorter, since you are fitting it into a workday.

10 minutes15 minutes25 minutes

03

What a date looks like for you

How many dates a month?

OneTwoThree

When could a date happen?

Pick everything that could work. Weekday mornings are the ones most couples forget about, and they are usually the easiest.

Weekday eveningWeekend eveningWeekday daytimeWeekend daytime

How long is a typical date?

A couple of hoursA whole eveningHalf a day

When do you need to be home?

Home by 9Home by 10Home by 11We can stay out

Can a date be on a Sunday?

Yes, Sunday worksAfternoons onlyNo, we keep Sunday

What do you want to spend per date?

We will mix it up. Some months a walk and coffee is the right answer.

Under $25$25 to $75$75 to $150$150 or more

04

Getting out in the evening

Mostly we need to know whether an evening out means finding a sitter, and how hard that is.

Kids at home?

NoYes, and we would need a sitter to go out in the eveningYes, but they are old enough that we can just go

How easy is a sitter?

We have someone reliableFamily nearby usually helpsWe would need to find someone

How many evenings a month can you get a sitter?

Be honest here. It beats us cheerfully suggesting three evenings you cannot cover.

NoneOneTwoThree or more

How much notice does the sitter need?

Same week is fineAbout a weekTwo weeks or more

Does the budget include the sitter?

Yes, that is the whole nightNo, the sitter is on top of it

05

Your work week

This unlocks the cheapest date there is, and most couples never think to try it.

Could you get out together on a weekday morning?

Both of us could, with a bit of planningOne of us couldNot realistically

Earliest you could start

When you would need to be back

06

What is already on your week

So we never put a date on top of something that matters to you.

Church, if you go

Leave these off if they do not apply to you.

Sunday morningSunday eveningWednesday eveningSaturday evening

Anything else most weeks

Anything on the horizon

07

The two of you, separately

Fill in both sides as best you can. You will not get it perfectly right about your spouse, and that is fine. We learn the rest from what you say yes and no to.

08

How you like a date to feel

Two couples with identical interests still want completely different evenings. This is the part that decides which one you get.

What should the dates be like? Pick any.

A proper night out, dinner and a showSomething active or outdoorsLow-key and cheap, coffee or a walkSomething neither of us has ever doneShort ones, an hour or twoAn excuse to actually get dressed up

Going back to places you love, or somewhere new?

Go back to it, we have our placesAlways somewhere newA bit of both

Booking ahead?

Happy to book tickets and reservationsWe would rather just show up somewhereSome of each

A few conversation questions with each date?

YesNo thanks

What kind?

Light and funDeeper, about usFaith and prayerDreaming and planning ahead

Anything you have been meaning to do

09

A few last things

What would make this worth it?

Just get out of the house moreReconnect, we have drifted a bitBe more consistent about itTry things we would not pick ourselvesTake the planning off our plate

Anniversary month

Your birthday month

Your spouse's birthday month

Anything we should never suggest

Places with alcohol, anything loud, a physical limit, somewhere with a bad memory attached. No explanation needed.